What is #Anxiety???

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This is possibly the most accurate description of what feeling like anxiety is like. Unfortunately, I have this feeling at least 98% of the day.

What is funny is that when the seat belt locks up on me.. I literally freak out. Pulling on it trying to get free, getting frustrated and angry.

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Overthinking is a big part of my anxiety. It is also why I can’t sleep. So I figured if I am going to have a blog that deals with anxiety I might as well be brutally honest right? So here we go.

Second Guess everything.

Did I run that stop light? Did I do a rolling stop? OMG is that cop going to do a U turn and pull me over? Is the chicken completely done? Did I show my daughters enough love today? Did I give them enough boundaries? Did I hurt my mom’s feelings with that comment? Should I have said that? Second guessing is like second nature to me. I pretty much think I don’t do anything right so I have to double check. Because well I just suck.

Analyze things to death

Yeah.. that part about me sucking comes from analyzing everything more than God ever intended it to be analyzed. Seriously. Someone once told me I have an analytical brain. I thought that sounded really cool and that it made me cool. Yeah. That’s not how this thing called anxiety works. Analytical only means that I think a lot and over analyze things way too much.

Expect The Worst

OMG Just reading that statement I can already tell it was written just for me. A lot of people say that I am an overly protective parent. That’s true but because I expect the worse. At a Halloween thing I went to there was all kinds of things just sitting around. Big heavy wood or metal things with sharp edges. My daughter and her best friend (her cousin) were chasing each other around in circle and in my head all I could see is one of them fall face first into one of these items and busting their head open. I know that sounds like really bad of me to say but I cannot help it. So I tell them not to run around those items. I have them run in an open area that is grass and I worry about spiders or snakes (thankfully its getting cold) So I don’t really like them running in grass either. I am terrified of snakes. deathly afraid of snakes and if one bit me or my girls I would probably have a heart attack.

Have Insomnia 

Well as you can tell from when this post was published. I don’t sleep very well. at all. Pretty much ever. I wish I did. I want to sleep. But sometimes my head just thinks about things over and over and over. I make lists for groceries or what bills need to be paid more than once to make sure I got everything right. I clean when I can’t sleep. Organizing things helps when I am anxious. What is sleep? Is it nice?

Hate making decisions, would rather someone make them for you

I hate hate hate hate having to make a decision. Usually because it takes a very long time for me to actually decide. I have to weigh the pros and cons. I have to make a list. I have to get peoples opinion. I think the only decision that I made without any help was when I decided to go back to school. And then I was too afraid to tell anyone.

Regret Often

Pretty much. I am a helping person. I have helped many people. and this isn’t just some way for me to gloat about what I’ve done. Because I completely feel bad that I regret spending all my money or time helping someone when they don’t want to help themselves. I regret buying myself something. Like I need pants I literally only have 3 jeans that fit comfortable. I am fat. I know this. I am trying to lose weight. It just isn’t working. So when I bought those 3 pairs of jeans I completely regretted it. I could’ve spent that money on bills, food or my girls. I don’t do well with spending money on me or having someone else spend money on me.

Can’t let things go/ Take things personally

This is pretty much the root of my arguments with my husband. I hold on to things way too long. Longer than I ever mean to. I promise I won’t do it but then that voice in my head goes….well you remember that one time and then it’s all I can think about. I also take things way too personally. Unfortunately, my husband cannot pick with me too much because I take it offensively or get hurt. I also take it personally if he picks around or jokes with another female because it comes across as flirting when he really doesn’t mean to. He’s an only child and didn’t learn things as easily or as completely as others like the actual way to flirt rather than joking around.

  Criticize yourself

This is me. 100% all day. everyday. I know it makes others upset about how I talk about myself. I am fat. I know I am. According to the weight chart I am way over fat. I used to be skinnier. I wish I could get back to that. I don’t have the best teeth. That comes from a freak accident with my niece and a broken arm. I am not pretty. My face could be skinnier. My hair doesn’t do anything special. It’s not super straight and its not curly. It just sits there and gets knotted. I am not the best mom. I fuss at my kids. I could be better. But I am not. Everyday I criticize something that I have or have not done.

Never 100% Certain/ feel tense

If you asked me if we should go left or right… I wouldn’t be able to give you an answer. I don’t know which is the correct way. You ask me for a percentage.. its going to be 95%. I am always tense. I am always prepared to leave. I am always waiting to leave and I am always depending on my husband to provide a little bit of relief. Anxiety sucks.

Feel like you can’t turn your brain off

If you haven’t learned anything from this post, you should understand that I cannot ever turn my brain off. I wish I could be like some of those people who can sit there and not think. What does it feel like to have no thoughts at all?

 

So thank you for listening to this long rant so early in the morning. If you see anything on the list that you can relate to. Let me know. Lets start the discussion on anxiety. Lets break the stigma around mental illness. I look forward to hearing from you.

 

 

#Anxiety… Tips for a relationship (maybe)

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Although I personally hate repeating myself, especially when I have told my daughter to pick up her shoes before someone trips for the thousand time. There are some things that I like to have repeated. Well not like. I need.

The sad thing is. I come across as such a bitch all the time. Because I am afraid. Because I am always asking the same thing over and over. Because I want to know what is going on. Because I feel like someone is talking about me even when I am listening to the same conversation. I don’t know why. It just seems like they’re using some type of code to talk about me. It doesn’t help that these people my husband was friends with started all of these awful rumors about me. Even tho my husband has told them off and they’re no longer friends, they still run their mouth about me or stare me down if I am in the same area as them. They have even made comments about my kids and how they wish they could see them. Like I am in the wrong somehow for not letting them (they are bad people. like a leech. they literally suck the life…and finances out of people) be in my kids life. They also don’t understand the importance of kids having boundaries and respect. But I am getting off subject. Well sort of. They did not help my anxiety in my relationship in the beginning of things. They are a total different subject that I don’t like to get into because well lets just say…I get angry.

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This photo explains pretty much how being in a relationship with anxiety is all about. I know that it says its called relationship anxiety. However, my relationship isn’t the only part that I am anxious over. I am anxious all the time. It’s also not just with my husband that I do these things.

As a momma’s girl, I worry about my moms health. Is she ok? Did she make it home ok? I worry about her driving. I worry about her going to the store alone. I mean her knee gave out on her once. What if it happens in the store and she’s alone. Would someone help her up? Or would they rob her? I worry about my husband taking my daughter to the bathroom in public. You know where he stands outside the womens room. What if he turns for one second and she disappears? What if someone in the bathroom harms her? I literally cannot begin to tell you how much I fear on a day to day basis. Sometimes it is unbearable and I just stay at home and cry. It is awful. I worry about getting into a car accident when me and my husband go somewhere alone in the same car. Who would take care of our girls?

What do I do? well for one… my mom texts me every time before she comes to my house to let me know she is in the car. She texts me when she gets home in the evening and we pretty much text all day until we go to bed. I run all of the errands for her that she doesn’t have to. (Yes I go and run the errands alone even tho it makes me anxious to be in the car. I’d rather it just be me in a car accident to even begin to think about my mom or daughters in my car.) I take her to the store so that I know she is okay. I ask my husband to find the family bathrooms so that he can go in with our daughter. When I am with her in the public restrooms she is no farther than an arms length away from me. I try to ensure that I will always be able to grab her if something happens. We have talked about public safety and the importance of having a secret word. We’ve talked about stranger danger and that you need to make a scene if someone grabs you. Like screaming thats not my mommy or thats not my daddy. Anything that will bring attention to yourself….

There are many weeks where I have gone on about 4 hours of sleep a night. I sit here and worry or over think things. I know that I have provided some posts about how to do things when it comes to anxiety. Tips that might help. Unfortunately, this is a personal post. This is me sharing just a little bit of my personal fears with you. Maybe you’ll feel a little comfortable to share a little bit of your fears with me. Do you have a way to turn your brain off? How do you combat insomnia? I look forward to hearing from you.

RAW October 16, 2017 Review

As with most of the WWE shows, we start off with a recap of what happened the week before. Because us fans are that stupid that we forget within one week of what has happened.

So Kurt comes out… and gets interrupted by………THE SHIELD

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Not only are they back but they came thru the crowd wearing their vest…. Also, Ambrose got a hair cut. It feels like it was 3 years ago. I cannot believe it has been that long since they broke up in the first place.

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On a completely related, but not related note. I hope that the fans keep their hands to themselves. Reigns has stated that fans get handsy and touch places that shouldn’t be touched since he is not consenting. So FANS no touchy!!!

Elias is out in the middle of the ring with Anderson and Gallows. Unfortunately, they’re singing. #IDontWalkWithElias. I really don’t. The whole singing segment only worked with Cena and Rock. It doesn’t work for them. The Bald headed babies (Stolen from my mom) tried to sing too. Not cool.

 

Luckily for all the fans, Apollo Crews, Titus O’Neil and Jason Jordan interrupted and cleared the ring. I feel like it has been so long since Titus wrestled, its weird to see him in his trunks again.

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The match between Jordan, Titus and Apollo vs. Gallows, Anderson and Elias is okay. There’s nothing to spectacular that makes you go OMG. They can’t all be over the top matches. It ended just as fast as it began with Apollo pinning Anderson.

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Asuka debuts Sunday at TLC against Emma. I am not quite sure why they have Emma do it. Unless she’s being pushed down to being a jobber. Which is quite possible. Because everyone knows they are going to push Asuka. They haven’t done a vignette for a superstar in a very long time so it has to be a sign that they are going to push her big time. 

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Back stage segment with Alexa Bliss…. I am not a fan. I don’t know why. I am just not a fan. So now they’re going to have Alexa Bliss and Emma vs Mickie James and whoever she chooses.

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Did Michael Cole really compare Emma to Enzo Amore? Uhm No. I like Enzo. And I know he’s that great of a wrestler and he talks to much. But did you ever think that you can get better at wrestling and they hired him for his talking skills? Well? I think he’s quite funny and entertaining.

Another video showing what we supposedly forgot about the week before…. Because we’re so dense that we forget what we watch in 6 or 7 days time. Only to have them come out, fight or talk about the same exact thing that we seen on the video. hmmm? Maybe I am just being too picky or too harsh. 

Does anyone really watch 205 live? I know I don’t. I spend my Tuesday nights watching Kevin Probably. I, however, do have to represent Cedric Alexander. He is from North Carolina 🙂 My home state. But like I said, they’re having another match with the same people after we just watched a video showing that they just wrestled. So what, is Jack going to win this time? I do like seeing Rich Swan tho. He is one of my favorite on 205 Live. At least he’s here to make sure that Jack doesn’t cheat and to even the odds. That’s nice of him.

So Alexander won again even tho Kendrick tried to cheat for Jack. Also, announcer. It was a singles competition…. Not a tag match. So when you announced that Cedric Alexander and Rich Swan won… you were wrong. Only Cedric will be in the books. Not Swan. He was just down there like any other manager. soo. :/

Unfortunately, we get to see MizTV. You know he’s doing his job well when so many people dislike him. Actually, I have never liked him. Even when he was on the Real World. I am just that picky of a person. I have been watching wrestling since I was a baby. I have always chose who I wanted and backed it up with what I felt. No one can tell you you’re wrong for feeling how you feel.

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So Cesaro still has to wear a mouth guard creating a lisp because of Dean and Seth smashing his teeth further into his jaw. That’s both painful and annoying.  The You Look Stupid chants are back louder than ever over Sheamus mohawk. I don’t want to be mean because I had a speech impediment growing up. But Cesaro’s lisp sounds funny. The guest tonight on MizTv is Braun Strowman…. I honestly think he could use more mic training. I kind of just want to turn the channel. I am just mean tonight.

Hey Miz. They are not nostalgia if it’s just 3 years since they were together. The DX is nostalgia. Lex Luger and Sting as a tag team was nostalgic. Shield getting back together after just 3 years is not nostalgic. That was just a break. Thank you Kurt for telling Miz to shut up. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Miz talks too much.  Good job Kurt. So if Strowman wins tonight the PPV will be 5 vs 3 but if he loses tonight it will be 3 vs 3. Hahaha. I wonder what is going to happen.

I think Kurt is one of the smartest GM’s. Banning everyone not apart of the match’s from ringside. Smart. If not, there would be a lot of cheating from Miz’s side of things. As per usual.

This whole Bray Wyatt thing is stupid. Like Raw come one. You could have simply brought Nikki Cross up from NXT to play Abigail. It wouldn’t be the first time that the creative has made someone from NXT change characters. But of course Finn is going to give a Demonic message. He’s the Demon King. This whole thing between Balor and Wyatt is getting a little old. I think that Balor needs a bigger better push. Then again, I’m #BalorClub.

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Oh wow. Alicia Fox is in another match. Shocker. she hasn’t been in many story lines since she was just the girlfriend on 205 Live. But I already see her losing to Sasha Banks. I liked her on Total Divas but her persona on Raw is too much. She sounds annoying.  Surprisingly enough Alicia got Sasha covered. However, it looked like the ref was counting slow. hmm? Alicia taps again. Two weeks in the row. She made an excuse for last weeks  tapping out. I wonder what tonight’s excuse is going to be?

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So Fox attacks Sasha backstage right after Sasha calls her crazy.. I do have to say Alicia’s kicks are weak as crap. And pushing a ref? Oh Alicia Don’t you know that’s a fine.

Yay It’s Enzo. Dear creative team. Can you please allow him to have a better promo then the one time he had to read off insults to all of the 205 Roster? Cause those insults were weak and not his best work. By the way Corey Graves. Enzo has a lot of fans. he doesn’t need you. I enjoy Enzo Amore. However, I think it is amazing that Kalisto got his turn to be a champ. Enzo calling Kurt a corrupt GM yet he is the one who ran his mouth and got the match moved up from the PPV to last Monday and didn’t stop running his mouth so it got turned into a lumber jack match. So. Cry me a river. 

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So Enzo got quite a few of the cruiserweights to attack Kalisto after talking about how he got money and it’s not dirty money…. So he paid them off? If Enzo removes Kalisto’s mask, I will lose all respect. You do not touch a luchador’s mask…ever. That is the biggest sign of disrespect there is. Thank goodness Mustafa Ali came out to help Kalisto. But that didn’t last long. We can definitely tell that that Enzo is a heel. There is no question about it. #HowYouDoin

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Yay its Tag team action. I honestly hope that they let Dean and Seth keep their titles. I also think it is great that they changed Seths music awhile ago. The Burn it Down is different. Just what he needs to show he is a different person.  Poor Cesaro. Having to be reminded of his teeth being shoved 5mm into his gum.

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It is so weird to see Seth and Dean wrestling in their old Shield gear. I mean it’s nice to see them back together. But I think I am going to miss Dean’s jeans and tank, being the crazy boy. I used to be a very big Cesaro fan. Even when he first got with Sheamus. However, I have slowly started to not. Just not. I don’t know. I haven’t even seen the Cesaro swing in so long. It’s kind of sad. I miss it. This is quite the interesting match.  They are two very strong, very capable tag teams. I wonder if the shield will get new gear. I mean since they are new shield and not the old shield. I mean they are back

I don’t know if it is me or if Dean isn’t as crazy as he usually is. It looks as if he’s second guessing things. Like not on full speed. The whole match looks like they’re not at their biggest potential. I don’t know. It feels like the match is full of missed potential. At least Dean and Seth are still the tag team champs. Thats the best thing.

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Now it’s time for Finn Balor to cut his promo to Bray Wyatt and his so called Sister Abigail. I will say again. I think they would have done better by bringing someone from NXT up to be Sister Abigail. It would’ve been a better message if Finn came out as the Demon King. Just saying. Either way. I cannot wait to hear Finn talk. I love listening to his accent.

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Well nice job production crew. Creating the new demon paint over fin’s face for the viewers at home. Even tho I am pretty sure the people there cannot see it. It’s nice for us. Just saying. I do, however, wish that they would end this Balor Wyatt feud. I have grown quite tired of it. We know he’s a demon and Wyatts a weirdo. but do you have to keep having the same feud over and over and over and over. I mean if you don’t have anyone new  for Balor to feud against, bring someone up from NXT. Just saying.

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Twitter update: WWE posted that Alicia Fox was fined an undisclosed amount for pushing the ref. Well Duh. I thought everyone knew that you could not lay your hands on a ref. That’s common knowledge.

So now we’re going to have Emma and Alexa Bliss versus Mickie James and whoever she chose. By the way, I have grown very tired of Emma thinking she started the women’s revolution. I think not. Sit down sweetheart. I would laugh if she chose Asuka for her tag. But she’s not supposed to debut til Sunday so… Hmmm. She chose Bailey. This should be an interesting tag match.  With an interesting match with both sides holding their own, Mickie James covers Alexa Bliss for the 1…2….3… VICTORY.

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Before commercial break we see Curtis Axel heading towards the Shield. Considering how loud he was huffing and puffing.. There is No way that the shield didn’t hear him coming.

Another backstage segment with Miz, the Bar and Strowman…. Kind of funny. Only Kind of.

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So looking at Finn Balor’s new make up got me thinking… It looks like WCW’s Halloween Havoc. I mean they’re bringing back two WCW things already.

Miz screaming who did this when he was already told that he went looking for the Shield. I mean really?

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It is time for the final match of the night. A steel cage match between Braun Strowman and Roman Reigns. Everyone is supposedly banned from the ring. Let’s see how well this actually works.

The Miz telling Renee young that Curtis Axel was never his 5th man just gives room for the rumors that the 5th man could be Samoa Joe.

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So when Reigns comes out by himself, he comes down the ramp. However, when he comes out with the Shield he comes through the crowd. After hearing the interview that Reigns gave, I wouldn’t come down thru the crowd by myself either. Fans can be very grabby.  I bet Strowman isn’t mad that he’s still in a feud with Reigns. In an interview he gave, he couldn’t praise Reigns enough. He talked more about Reigns than he did himself.

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Although everyone was banned from ringside the Miz decided to sit at the top of the ramp on commentary. Stating that we all need to hear his voice. I promise you we do not need to hear what you have to say.

So the Let’s go Cena/ Cena Sucks chants have now changed to Lets go Roman/ Roman sucks. interesting. Reigns needs the chants at the moment as Strowman throws him around like a rag doll. I think creative is going to let Strowman win so that Joe could have a reason to come back. The rumor has it that he’s coming back. Sheamus and Cesaro show up as Roman are climbing up the side of the cage. The Bar decide to climb up the cage towards Reigns when the remainder of the Shield decides to come out to help.

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With all of this distraction going on, Strowman had the opportunity to get up and grab a hold of Roman suplexing him from the top of the cage. The HolyShit chants start. Because honestly that was pretty epic.

Unfortunately, the camera went off the main match and is following the other parts of the teams into the backstage area. Where is Kurt in all of this. He claimed that no one was to be at ringside and no one listened.  However, Miz did lock them outside.Might be the only good thing the Miz has ever done.

To be such a big guy, Strowman can really move. He climbs the side of the cage faster than I ever could.  It is kind of cool how the whole crowd does the OOOH AAAAH with Roman. But it does give the opponent the heads up to what’s coming. Roman only ever goes OOOOH AAAH when he’s going to do the arm thing.

Kane’s music….. really… That is interesting. Holy Shit. Kane is back. He’s coming for Reigns. He came thru the ring. It is extremely creepy when he does that. But I mean how is that possible? Like wouldn’t that be a soft spot for all the other matches? is it a trap door? How did we not catch up on it before? Did the people at the arena see Kane crawling under the ring during commercial break? So many questions run thru my head.  So if Kane’s back.. does that mean his campaign failed???

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With the assist from Kane, Strowman won. And I was wrong. Joe isn’t the 5th member. It is Kane. Interesting. I thought Kane was going to retire soon.

Dating someone who has anxiety.

Tips for dating someone with anxiety | ..don't agree with all of them, but everyone is different
As someone who has anxiety, I know that I am a handful. I totally feel bad about it as well. It is that reason that when I started dating my husband over 8 years ago I hid a lot of stuff from him. I didn’t want to scare him off by being too much. Or over reacting as some people believe. As I was scrolling through my social media this morning, I found this picture. I thought what an amazing idea. So I thought I would share it and break it down from my experience or what I’ve put my husband through in the past 8 years.

1.) Reassure them constantly

I am constantly thinking that I am over bearing or too clingy. Then there are times that I feel that he isn’t loving enough. Has he stopped loving me? Is he getting ready to bolt? Have I done something wrong? The thoughts have gotten less frequent lately. However, they have happened. I know that I have been quite annoying by asking the same questions like ‘how much do you love me?’ etc.. By being reassuring and talking to your significant other it will greatly help these thoughts become less frequent. Now, its not the same as never happening. I cannot turn my brain off or stop that bad little voice that says I’m being too much. But it is a good feeling that my husband understands where I am coming from instead of launching into an argument.

2.) Keep them in the loop of your life.

To me this is a big thing. I like to plan everything out. I like to have set times and things that are going to get done. I like to know what my husband has planned as well. I am constantly worried about his driving (riding with him scares me) so if he makes an unplanned trip to the game store instead of heading straight home it worries me. We know how long it takes to get from our house to his work and back. He also has to drive pass this intersection that has been known to have really bad wrecks. So being even just a little late scares me. There was also a time before we got married and weren’t living together that he decided he wanted to get a new car. But he didn’t share this tidbit with me. So as I was heading to work, I passed his house. There was a car there that I have never seen before. Although it wasn’t always my business what happened at his house, I didn’t know who was there. If our daughter was going to be there, I needed to know who was going to be around her. There are certain people who don’t respect my decision to not have smoking or drinking or drugs around my children so I don’t allow them around. Essentially, it is reassuring to your significant other if you fill them in on what you are doing. Not like the small stuff. I don’t need to know that he’s heading to the bathroom at work. That’s a little too much information.

3.) Text them when you are on your way and/or when you get home

This is very important for people with anxiety. If you’re getting home late or leaving late and don’t text your significant other who suffers with anxiety bad thoughts will be sure to happen. Like I have already stated, I worry about my husbands driving. So if he doesn’t text me to tell me he’s going to be late or he’s making a pit stop, I have the worst imagination for bad things happening. It is like constantly being a pessimist. Its awful. I’m pretty sure I am not the only one either. I also don’t condone texting while driving. I do, however, suggest sending a quick text message before leaving. We know how long it takes to get home. Add 5 to 10 minutes depending on traffic and let your boyfriend/girlfriend know. It will mean more than you realize.

4.) Hugs.

Have you ever seen that episode of Grey’s Anatomy where the heart doctor was autistic? Change made her freak out and to suppress her nervous system and calm her down she needed to be hugged tight. That works for people with anxiety as well. Hugs are always appreciated and hardly ever turned away.

5.) Triggers. Identify them.

This is not an easy task since anxiety manifest in people in different ways. It is hard to describe how my anxiety manifests because it has to do with a lot of things. Childhood memories, bad experiences, etc. Therefore, my triggers for certain things vary. Like today I had to get my brakes changed. They were so bad, it was almost to the point of having no brakes at all. That scares me dearly. I have been talking about getting my brakes changed for the past couple days. However, actually going to a shop to get them done is very hard for me. Talking to people face to face by myself makes me very anxious. My husband tried to take the car last night to get it done but they had already closed. He had planned on getting off early to get it done so that I wouldn’t have to possibly face an anxiety attack to get my car taken care of. However, this morning the brakes were so loud I sucked it up and went. I was very anxious standing in the shop with 4 guys asking to get my brakes fixed but I cannot even imagine the idea of no brakes with my kids in the car. (So that’s a win for me!!!) I had a mechanic shop that I was comfortable with. I knew them. I had used them for a while. Unfortunately, they went out of business. So finding a new business that would be patient with me and not try to overcharge me is not something I have been looking for.

6.) No Surprises. Unless you are certain it will make them happy.

I am not a surprise person. I like to know what is going to happen and when. That is why my husband has not tried to do a surprise birthday or anything like that. He doesn’t even try to sneak up on me. You know that cute thing where the guy goes behind the girl and covers her eyes and says ‘guess who?’ Yeah that’s not for me. I do believe I have elbowed him pretty hard before. I do not like surprises. I am pretty certain that anyone who suffers from anxiety is not a fan of surprises.

7.) Change is hard.

If that is not the truth. I do not like change. I do the same routine every morning. I get up, get lunches prepared. Wake my girls up. Get my oldest daughter ready for school. Pick my nephews up and then drop them off at school. My youngest daughter has a nap by 9 am. After that is a little more lenient. However, if we wake up late or something happens to throw off our morning it makes the rest of the day a little hard.

8.) Be there. Just be there.

This is so important. I think that it is very important to be with your significant other when they’re dealing with things. Also, don’t judge. We have a real disease. There is such a stigma around anxiety that it already makes it hard for us to talk about it. I have become such an introvert because people tend to throw my anxiety in my face like I am just making up an excuse. I love that my husband never judges me when I say I am feeling anxious or I am scared. I love how he tries to change his habits to make me a little less angry. Like when I am in the car with him, he increases his breaking distance because I am afraid his brakes will fail or he won’t stop in time and I’ll be in another wreck. It is so important to be with you significant other no matter what.

If you’re planning on spending your life with your significant other, it is important that you come to understand their anxiety. I think it is time we break the barrier and stop the stigma against mental illness. Speak up and speak out. We are not alone. We are one. If you have any other tips on how to date someone with anxiety, leave a comment. If your significant other does something that helps you through your anxious times, let me know. I would love to hear from you.