I swear I always feel like I am a bad person.
As the day ends, my thoughts never go to what went right or what I did good.
They constantly replay every little bad thing that I ever did.
I am a bad person
I am a bitch.
Well that last one is true.
I told my husband when we got together almost 9 years ago that ‘I am a bitch, if you cannot handle that then I don’t know if we can make this work’.
I am a bitch in the sense that I will say what I need to say for who I need to. I will do whatever needs to be done for those I love. I am a protective person by nature. So if that means that I have to be a bitch. Then so be it.
I use to be a happy person always with a smile on her face. But then that dirty, nasty demon named anxiety set in. Now I am always worried. Always feeling. Always in resting bitch face.
But being a parent. Especially such a young person. I became a mom when I was 19. I partied for 2 months before I found out I was pregnant. I was a wild teen for literally 2 months. That is it. When that test came back positive…. I knew I was done with all of the childish games. There was a child that was coming into my life that needed a mom not a teen.
But I started this journey only knowing what it is like to babysit or be an aunt.
I make mistakes.
Even now that I have 2 kids. Because there are things that my six year old is like that I never learned how to cope with. I have to be the adult.
When you’re a kid you think that being an adult will be so awesome. But they never really told you what being an adult is really like.
So when the time comes that I need to lay down for bed. After I have checked on my kids for the thousandth time.. my mind plays back every mistake I made. Every little thing that I could have done differently.
But what I need to do. And what you should do, if you’re a parent, is remember that the sun will rise tomorrow. And we all can try again.
because honestly, that is all we can do. Is try. There is no gold medals for parents.
Who cares what those soccer moms think about your parenting style. It is yours. As long as your kids not some asshat then you’re doing a good job. Even if your kid is an asshat, you’re still doing a good job because you’re trying.
I mean you can be as good as a parent as you can but you cannot always determine how your kid will turn out. I mean my mom is my best friend. It has always been the two of us fighting thru poverty, homelessness and all kinds of issues. But even though she took her 3 kids out of a shitty situation with my dad and worked 12 hours a day sometimes. My brother still caused a lot of issues.
So, go a little easier on yourself. The sun is rising tomorrow and you get to start over again. You still have time to fix your mistakes and you still have time to show how much you love your kids. As long as there is still oxygen in your lungs, your heart is still beating and you can still do it. Then do it.
We may have a mental illness. We may over think. We may make mistakes. We may fall down. But we can pick ourselves up and try again.