Say no

 

I think that when you suffer from a mental illness, you know how bad things can get. Therefore, you try even harder to make sure no one else gets that way. Or at least that is the case for me. I know how bad mental illness can get so I suffer from a ‘superhero complex’ and try to help EVERYONE. All the time. My husband says that I am always too nice. that I do things for others without being asked. Like making food for his training class. 4 weeks in a row. without being asked.
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but sometimes…. people see that kindness in you….and they exploit it. they take advantage and use the best way that they know how to exploit your sympathetic bones. Sob stories. Guilt trips. You name it….there are some people who see that you are a helpful person and they will constantly use you until you are bone dry. I actually knew some people, they were my husbands friends not mine…at all….who get everything from cars, food, clothes etc from begging others. They drain you dry. I remember them calling my husband the day he got paid or the weekend after he got paid asking for 200 bucks to pay their light bill…because they cannot keep a job….well the husband can’t keep a job, the wife refuses to work.

They dried everyone up around them……
There are so many people out there like that…. and they will leech off of you until you are down to absolutely nothing….

And it is okay to say no.
Like you do not have to give everything you have to someone who won’t even help themselves. How can you truly help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves? You can’t. Honestly… you can’t…until they are ready to help themselves…..they will constantly be leeching off of you until you’re worse than they are…..

So….if you’re anything like me…you’ll need to learn how to say no without explaining yourself….. you don’t have to explain to anyone why you are saying no to anyone. I think the only people that I explain my actions to are my husband, my kids (I explain why we say no) and my mom.

But if there is someone in your life that has leeched off of you….. or constantly bugging you to do something with or for them… you can say no….without explaning yourself…

#Lyrics I don’t wanna be sad-Simple Plan

 

No, I don’t wanna be sad
I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more
It’s been twenty-eight days since I’ve seen the sunshine
‘Cause I just can’t seem to lift this cloud away
I swear all the tears I’ve cried could fill an ocean
I’ve been swimming in the sea of misery
I can’t find the strength to leave this bed
I’m locked up in my cuckoo head
I feel so low and I can’t let go
I’ve got all the symptoms, all the signs
I tell my friends I’ll be just fine
But truth be told, it’s getting old
No, I don’t wanna be sad
I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more (no, no, no)
And I know, some days will be bad
But I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more
I’ve tried every pill the doctor will prescribe me (I’ve tried, oh, oh, oh)
And I’ve put myself through weeks of therapy (weeks of therapy)
I’ve tried meditation yoga and pilates (I’ve tried, oh, oh, oh)
It’s like happiness just wasn’t meant for me (wasn’t meant for me)
But I’m through I’m done I’ve had enough
I’ll ditch this funk I tell you what
Just watch me now
‘Cause I won’t back down
I’ve got a bad ass personality
So I just need to set it free
It starts today
I’m on my way
No, I don’t wanna be sad
I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more (no, no, no)
And I know, some days will be bad
But I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more
I don’t wanna be sad (oh whoa, no no no)
I don’t wanna be sad (oh whoa, no no no)
I don’t wanna be sad, sad, sad, sad, sad, sad
No, I don’t wanna be sad
I don’t wanna be sad, sad, sad no more
And I know, some days will be bad
But I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more, woo
No, I don’t wanna be sad
I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more (no, no, no)
And I know, some days will be bad
But I don’t wanna be sad sad sad no more, woo
I don’t wanna be (no, no, no)
I don’t wanna be sad, sad, sad no more, woo
I don’t wanna be (no, no, no)
I don’t wanna be sad, sad, sad no more
 This is one of the newer Simple Plan songs that I found. I cannot believe that I didn’t realize that they were still making music. they were so huge when I was in middle school Every one was in love with the lead singer.
I think that everyone who deals with a mental illness will agree, we don’t want to be this way. It’s not like we chose to be this way. It just kind of happened. It is something that we are going to be struggling with every day. We will always be learning new ways to control our illness. We are warriors, We are strong, we are champions.
And every single day, we don’t wanna be sad no more.