Change

They say that change is good. An I mean it is for some things.

Like my living room or bedroom. I cannot keep it the same way for too long. For some reason I have to change it around every so often.

I’ve always been this way. Maybe because my mom did it when I was growing up. I don’t know.

I do know that rearranging a room takes a lot of work. It allows me to take my mind off of other things and focus on the deep cleaning of that room. The organizing that comes with the rearranging is also very good for my anxiety. I think I mentioned before how when I feel an anxiety attack coming on I will start rearranging things.

However, sometimes change isn’t good. I posted about the importance of having a routine. Sometimes a change can mess with your routine and your life can feel even more chaotic than it already is.

But if you’re on a dangerous destructive path, maybe a change is something you need.

If you’re anything like me, then you should probably start with small changes. With things that you can control. I usually start with a little small change. You know a change that I can control. Just to try to get myself accustomed how to react when changes I cannot control happen.

Sometimes change is good, as long as it is something you want.

 

How you respond

I can be such a controlling person and I think my anxiety has something to do with it. I’m not even sure why I like to have control. Maybe a very skilled therapist could find the root of this problem.

However, something that I really need to work on is how I react. When you cannot control what is happening, control how you respond. For that is where your power is.

When things get hectic and out of control you can typically only control how you respond. For instance, if you overreact or react badly, things can get worse. Typically in my experience, they get way worst.

However, if you grab the metaphorical bull by the horns and own the situation you can probably gain control of the situation much faster. Also, reacting in a positive manner typically provides more positive results.

I’m guilty of not acting in a positive manner…..who else is guilty?