I haven’t really came across anyone who doesn’t have their kid do some type of chores. I have my kids do chores and when my nephews are here, I expect them to pitch in as well.
I am no maid.
Yes, I clean all the time, but when it comes to the girls’ room, that is their responsibility. So I thought I would write about the benefits of chores.
1.) Teaches them responsibilities.
I am the type of mom that if I go into the room and trip over a toy, that toy goes into toy jail. Especially if I told said kid to clean their room. I also teach my kids that it is easier to clean up a few toys than a whole room. So that kind of teaches them that when they’re done with one toy and they’re no longer playing with it, then they should put it up before getting another one out.
The two year old hasn’t quite gotten the hang of things yet, but she does try to assist her sister on cleaning things up. Then there are days where the two year old decides that every toy should be on the floor.
My oldest, she has learned from chores that it is her responsibility to keep up with her toys because leaving them out could mean that toy gets taken away or broken.
2.) A sense of accomplishment.
I try to teach my oldest that I shouldn’t have to tell her to clean her room. That doesn’t always go over the way I want it. But then there are some days where I will be in the kitchen or doing something and she’ll tell me to come here and she has cleaned her room and made her bed without being told. She feels accomplished and as a parent who wants to inspire my kids…. I acknowledge that accomplishment.
3.) Delayed Gratification
We offer our oldest an allowance for doing chores without being asked. Now if we have to harp on her all the time, then she doesn’t get paid for it. However, there was one time where she had her cousin/best friend over and after they ate dinner, without being asked, she cleared the table and wiped it down. I was utterly proud. However, she doesn’t get her allowance the day of. And we don’t hand out actual physical cash because it can get lost. So what we do is keep a tally of the days she has done chores and if there are any extra bonuses. When we go to the store, she ask if she has enough money in her ‘imaginary bank’ to buy a toy. She asks if she has enough for a little, medium or large toy. If she doesn’t have enough, she simply says that she’ll have to work harder to earn the money and that maybe next time she will have enough to buy something.
4.) Self discipline
Chores teach kids self discipline. What that means to me is that if your kid is not responsible for the mess they make and only depend on others to clean up behind them, they’ll carry that into adult hood and could possibly live in a mess. Our oldest knows that if she makes the mess she has to clean it. She cannot go to granny’s or do any fun things if she has a mess left behind
It also teaches her to allow time to clean up. So that if she knows that she has to go to bed at 9 and brush her teeth at 8:30 then she will need to have her room cleaned up by 8 or else the next night her bed time will be moved up earlier.
We never want our kids to grow up but as parents we need to make sure that we are teaching our children how to adult without us. That doesn’t mean make a 6 year old think and act like an 18 year old. No! What we’re really trying with chores is to teach them how to handle things independently and the amount of independence grows with age. A six year old is not expected to cook by themselves. However, my six year old does help set the table while I am cooking. It teaches her that meals such as dinner should be ate away from technology. She will put the plates out and get the water for everyone eating. Soon, as she grows older, she will be able to cook on her own. Right now, I let her help me cook. Her favorite thing to cook is eggs.
6.) Chores create teachable moments
When my kid was watching me do the dishes, she didn’t understand why I did them in a certain order. This allowed me to teach her why doing the greasy frying pans last is easier and better because it doesn’t transfer the grease to other dishes. Why does mommy vacuum after dusting? This allowed me to teach her that if you dust, the dust will fall on the floor. If you vacuum before dusting, then you will be vacuuming again. There are many teachable moments in chores, you just gotta let them come to you with the questions and be ready to answer.
7.) Good work ethics.
Chores teach good work ethics. Work smarter not harder. Sometimes my kid is very good at this and sometimes not so much. But she is still learning. There are days where if she has one toy out but wants to play with another, she will put the first toy away before getting the second. This allows for a less cleaning time and more play time. Now she’s only 6 so sometimes she still just pulls them all out. and that makes clean up harder but she still gets it done with no fuss.
8.) Finish what you started
Chores are a great way to teach children to finish what they start. You’re clothes are just going to get dirty if you don’t put them up and dump them on the floor. The dishes won’t get washed if you just pile them on the table. This can transfer to school and later in life
Chores is a great way for kids to learn respect. If they are responsible for their own items, then they will respect them more. Especially if doing chores allows them to buy items. Then they will have even more respect for those items because they worked hard for them.
10.) Finding fun
Chores have always been a tedious job. I, as an adult, still don’t like to do chores but I have to get them done anyway. But I find a way to make things fun. Especially when I have music playing and I’m dancing around. Kids look at the chores the same way. So it allows them to find a way to make something so boring and turn it into fun. Like who can get the most toys cleaned up the fastest.