One thing that happens when you become a mom at a young age, is you’re constantly looking at others mothers to see if you’re doing things right. I haven’t really done that myself since I have been around little kids and watching little kids since I was a kid myself. So I kind of get the gist of what it takes to raise a kid. What I didn’t know was the financial situation of it all but I understood how to talk to them. How to hold babies. How to feed babies. The basics.
However, having anxiety makes me second guess myself a lot. Not just with discipline but with things like do we have enough food, drinks etc. (BTW the answer to that is always YES!, I keep a very stocked house.) I look to others in my family or friends to see how they’re handling summer vacation or rewarding their kids for good grades. You see, I read that students lose 20% of what they learn the prior year during summer. Therefore, we have our oldest who is the only one in school doing a worksheet and reading a book Monday thru Friday so that she is learning what she will be studying in the upcoming year and is ready and she is not losing the 20% from the prior year by doing nothing productive during the summer.
There are some times in life when you are losing your mind. It doesn’t always have to be a complete breakdown. It could be just a bad day and then you’re looking at friends or other mothers to see how they are handling things. The sad thing is…. they’re losing it too. They just found a way to hide it better.
Don’t compare yourself to other mothers. We are all losing our shit, some women just hide it better.
And ‘losing your shit’ doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom. I hate how people associate having a bad day or losing your mind with being a bad mom. It could simply be a bad day. Like this one day. We are all three sick, except my husband, and you know how whiny kids can get when they’re sick and then being mom and being sick while taking care of sick kids can be even stressful. So I had two whiny crying kids wanting juice or food and my head is pounding because this sinus headache and chest cold is kicking my butt so when they finally take a nap… I cried. Not because my kids are so awful or because I am a bad mom but because I was tired and sick and my kids are sick and I just want to take the sickness away from them and I can’t.